M - Ryan

November 18, 2015  •  1 Comment

"I don't feel like the world owes me anything."

 

Why millennials? I've always found it fascinating that people have this need to label things. I'm guessing a lot of people observed how young folks conduct themselves in society and decided there was a clear difference between them and those that came before.  A dividing line was created around a certain time frame (early 80s born to early 2000s born) and the term "millennial" was coined. I read a lot of articles calling millennials all sorts of things ranging from entitled to ungrateful to straight up awful in one way or another...

Then I found out I was technically a millennial.

Being included in the millennial generation was surprising to me, because I didn't feel like anyone I knew in said age range fit these horrendous descriptions I had been reading. So I wrote on my Facebook asking if people would be interested in talking about their experience "reaching young adulthood around 2000" (how freaking vague is that btw?) and if they felt they had been in any way hindered by that label.

The goal was to get a bunch of these "interviews" under my belt before posting, but I felt I couldn't wait any longer. Also, I have a super bad habit of taking the craziest sloppiest notes that are only legible for a set amount of time before I forget just what they mean. So here goes.


I met up with Ryan at Hamilton's Tavern in South Park. South Park is a very "hip" neighborhood in San Diego, CA. A really cool place to live, but impossible to get into...but I digress. Ryan is a guy that tends to readily say whatever is on his mind, so I was glad when he stepped up as one of the first people to undergo this little experiment. We order a couple of beers and then sit down in a relatively quiet corner of the bar. Ryan and I are old friends, so there's a pretty standard amount of banter (which you absolutely do not get to read about) before I steer the conversation toward its purpose.

We spoke for about an hour and a few things really stuck with me.

 

"There's a certain lack of critical thinking and accountability amongst the early 20 somethings in my workplace."

 He noted (while adding that he isn't some sort of genius) that he often finds himself offering simple solutions to not complex problems in the workplace. We wondered how much the internet having every answer to every question at our fingertips had to do with this, and then we laughed at ourselves for a bit when we realized that we both rely (heavily) on our cell phones to remember phone numbers.

 

"Seven years post college was when I finally felt like I was out of college."

What? That doesn't make any sense? Here's what Ryan had to say (paraphrased) " I mean, you were there. I had a 'big boy' job right after college. It wasn't until at least 7 years after graduation that I really felt like I was out of college." He's right. Ryan graduated in 2006 and had a very good job (even better one now) and for him life felt like college that whole time. I attribute part of that to how murky the transition to the "real world" has become. It seems like everyone is waiting longer and longer to do those things that define us as "adult." 

"We both (my wife and I) have well paying jobs...but we cannot afford a house where we want to live."

I want to add here that they aren't trying to live at The Ritz either. Our neighborhood used to be not so nice...but it's getting nicer. There's a house on the corner listed at $730,000. Yet if you go two blocks north of that you'll be standing where someone was stabbed a few weeks ago.

"I moved out when I was 18."

This stood out a lot to me, because one of the things I most often hear about people in my age group is how lazy,entitled, and unwilling we are to work hard. Ryan has held a job for the majority of the time that I've known him (13 years now) and none of them have been a cakewalk. 

"I don't feel like the world owes me anything."

Probably the most "anti-millennial" sentiment of the night. As mentioned above Ryan is well aware that nothing comes easy to anybody, and that you've got to be willing to bust your ass to get even a shadow of what you want out of life.

As our conversation went on I realized this whole thing is going to give me a lot of info on people. I'll share what I deem is appropriate for the conversation, but I'd like to also add we talked a lot about relationships and how people in our age group are doing a lot of "milestones" much later in life...but more on that later.





 


Comments

1.Cat sharp(non-registered)
I look forward to more interviews! Id like to see part 2 of ur conversation. I am sure i am not within the millennial frame but if u ever have any questions for me im down ;)
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